Thursday, March 12, 2015

You Don't Get To Be Offended


When you say condescending things about my child like "he's got so much potential" and assume he's not doing his best, then you're told otherwise...

You're not the one who has the right to be offended.

When you violate or threaten to violate IDEA or ADA and act as if you're doing me a favor by following an IEP and I call you on it...

You do not get to be offended. 

When you insinuate that the disability my child has can be punished out of him and I push you to support him more instead of caving in...

You don't get to be offended. 

Those times I remind you that interventions have to be followed as agreed upon in order to know if they are going to work when you push for harsh consequences in lieu of problem solving...

You do not get to be offended.

When you tell me that you are worried about your credibility as an educator because my son is having difficulty, but it mainfests in ways that look "defiant" to you... and I tell you one child does not hold the power to discredit you...

You do not have the right to be offended. 

When I suggest a classroom placement may not be appropriate or other factors may be going on those times you tell me he is being "noncompliant"...

You do not get to be offended.

When you send me emails littered with defensiveness when I am advocating for my child's right to a free and appropriate public education...

When you suggest I am not doing my part...

When you state I'm looking for ways to get him out of learning and working...

When you expect me to force a square peg into a round hole which I know will lead to damaging the square peg...

I am the one who gets to be offended. 

Image Description.: Text reads Just because a Disabled person is able to perform the way you think they should one time or a few times, doesn't give you the right to hold that over their head. It doesn't mean that act is sustainable.
It does not dictate ability, capability, or potential.
If the Disabled person is unable to replicate that again it does not mean they choose not to do it, are being defiant, or are otherwise trying to piss you off
This is disability 101.
Kimberly Faith
www.facebook.com/ParentingAutisticChildrenWithLoveAcceptance
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